This is not what I thought I would be writing about today but that's how it works. I am a part of the Ojai Storytellers Marketplace Boutique tomorrow and I have been so excited to do it!! I had visions of creating special perfumes around characters or stories or fairytales. I wanted my offerings to be clever and complex and layered and impressive! There, i said it! I wanted you to be impressed with what I created! But a few things have happened that have changed that trajectory to a much more authentic one. Now I am just wanting you to be comforted and cared for by what I am creating.
I recently asked The Universe to help me uplevel my life and as my friend Lydia, (a brilliant therapist). said, "when you ask for something like that, first comes the lessons and hard work, then afterwards the blessings!" and she's so right. I have been in a tumble since asking this. First my rollers for all of my perfumes were removed from the market, never to be seen again! I have tried several work-arounds and have received the most bizarre possible products! Some of my oils have also disappeared, and it's becoming comedic.
And right after this Universal request, my siblings and I decided to get ride of some family storage units. In doing this, it was like opening a tomb of memories and voices from the past and we are still each in shock with the bravery it takes to let go of things you love, once owned by people you love. While this was all happening, my brother's dog also got a rought diagnosis, my niece's dog did as well, and another beloved family member has some medical things causing a scare.
Usually when I go into the making of perfumes for a market, particularly Gratitude, I feel this amazing joy and zen come over me. But now, because I have been hampered by not having the exact right things to make it, I've missed that ritual. I have tried to work around and create new things, but that just wasn't working. Yesterday I kept feeling this dark ache i my stomach and I tripped on cracks and dropped things and at some point I realized "I am grieving. I am grieving hard" and I just have to allow that to be felt and unwind.
But how do i do this market tomorrow when I dont have much inventory and can't make what I wanted to? A friend asked me today if one of my perfumes was particularly good for grief. That question opened a door and now, I am making things that help with grief and give comfort. So many of my products do just this!! I am making Sleepy Stars that help you fall asleep and moisturize your hands and feet. There is a small tribe of us who use them each night and send goodness to one another. I am making because my skin feels dry and parched and Quench hydrates you and makes your skin feel just incredibly velvety for many hours! I am hoping to do some smaller bottles of Gratitude and Haven to go as a set. Gratitude is uplifting and Haven is deeply calming and comforting. If I get time, I will make Cocoa Rose Hearts you can cary with you and Pear Spice Comfort Cubes that you hold and smell and touch when the world is falling apart. They uplift and warm you.
I am calling this market Better Bedtime Stories and spending time writing about "What stories do you tell yourself in the middle of the night?" Do you know how to change stories you automatically default to that no longer serve you? "I'm stupid. I'm always wrong. I am not worthy. It's all my fault. People always leave me." are just a few of these. Do you know how to deal with the voices arising? Do you have rituals in the night that help when you start to sink? One of our newest colognes, Haven is named that speciically because it can be used for the practice of Havening which involves phsyical self-soothing. And Gratitude, of course, is used to bolster but also to help us keep our focus on all of the blessings coming to us we might not even pay attention to.
There is so much to say about all of this and I will elaborate in the future, but for now I will say, come to the Ojai Storytellers Market tomorrow from 9:30-5:30 and let's give you some comfort and self-care tools that will help shift your life in beautiful ways. The more we can each "tuck ouselves in" the more goodness we give to the world and those around us. Let's be a small, mighty tribe that tries to transform any nightmares and can hold space for the grief we might be carrying. Sending you each love. <3 DK of Be Wyld Child
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